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Self-Compassion & Compassionate Parenting: Merging Self-Kindness with Raising Children

By Ishmael Mailos -
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  Self-Compassion & Compassionate Parenting: Merging Self-Kindness with Raising Children The Struggle Many parents feel an ache deep inside when their children misbehave. A father watches his daughters come home late, or a mother discovers her son hiding things. The first reaction is often guilt: “I failed. I must be a weak parent.”   This guilt can grow into self-blame, leading to feelings of helplessness. But what if this struggle is not a verdict on your worth, but an invitation to shift?   The Shift Instead of sinking into self-blame, compassionate parenting calls us to pause and reframe: “Their behavior reflects their stage, their environment, and their growth struggles. It does not erase my love, nor define my capability.” This is where self-compassion  becomes a quiet revolution in parenting. When you are kind to yourself, you gain the inner space to be kind yet firm with your children. The Spark In psychology, Dr. Kristin Neff describes self-compassion as...
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Dhikr and Emotional Regulation: Islamic Psychology for a Calm Mind.Written by Ifrah Kamal.Edited by Ishmael Mailos

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  Dhikr and Emotional Regulation: Islamic Psychology for a Calm Mind Struggle: The Chaotic Mind You sit in front of a blank screen. Thoughts are racing , some whisper that you are not good enough, others tempt you towards the very sin you’ve resisted. Your chest tightens, your mind spirals, and peace feels impossibly far. This inner chaos is something many of us know too well. And if we listen closely, we realize it’s not just noise , it’s a  story  we keep telling ourselves:  “I am weak… I am failing… I can’t cope.” But what if, in that overwhelming moment, you could rewrite that story into one of hope and calm? That is what  Dhikr , the conscious remembrance of Allah ﷻ   offers. Shift: The Power of Dhikr Dhikr is not just the movement of the tongue. It is an intentional act of remembering Allah : through His Names, duas, praise, or simply  istighfar  (seeking forgiveness) : with sincerity from the heart. Allah ﷻ   assures us of its power: ٱ...
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Overcoming Procrastination: A Psychological and Islamic Approach.Written By Bakali Masumbuko,Edited by Ishmael Mailos

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                 Overcoming Procrastination: A Psychological and Islamic Approach Introduction Have you ever stared at a task for hours, knowing it was important, but still couldn’t bring yourself to start? That was me , not once, but many times. Procrastination crept into my studies, work, and even personal commitments, leaving me stressed and frustrated. Over time, I discovered that overcoming procrastination requires more than quick hacks , it demands both practical strategies and a deeper, spiritual perspective. Psychology offers tools to manage our time and focus, while Islam provides timeless guidance that grounds our intentions and actions. Together, they form a powerful approach to productivity and inner peace. Understanding Procrastination Procrastination isn’t just laziness , it often hides behind fear and doubt. Sometimes it’s the fear of failure, other times the fear of not being perfect. For me, I often delayed assignments u...
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